Insight #1: Visit, don't linger!
There is a myth that is pervasive in the Yoga and Psychiatric community. Well, maybe not a myth, but a misconception.
Often in the process of one’s Yoga practice feelings will arise. The traditional Yoga and Psychiatric philosophy is this:
“If you fully feel an old feeling, it will go away.”
And yes, I guess that is true for SOME feelings.
But is it good for the big EVIL feelings, the Grand-Daddy Whoppers which have been lost somewhere (for good reason) in your unconscious?
I think not.
When I first started to feel “stuff” during my Yoga practice, I dove in deeper, in a passionate quest to discover what was going on in me. I became obsessed with trying to figure it out. It was fascinating, scary, almost fun.
As I confronted and felt the forgotten land mines hidden deep in my body and my mind, they didn’t go away. They exploded. Became bigger. They traumatized my nervous system.
I actually traumatized my nervous system.
I wish I could blame Yoga or the Psychiatric Community or the Grand-Daddy Whoppers from my past. But I can’t. I created The People in my Hips. I time-traveled them from my forgotten past to the present in my quest to discover and to feel.
And now years later, believe it or not , I am thankful that was my path. I have grown so because of my experience with the PEEPS.
But to be truthful, if I had a choice now, I would RUN from that path!
My advice to individuals practicing Yoga who feel intense feelings is this:
If it goes away in 30 seconds - GREAT!
If it doesn’t go away, GET OUT OF IT.
MOVE OUT of the Asana/posture, STOP the breathing practice, even GET OUT of the Yoga studio!
Walk, move, do something else. Eat ice cream, or pet a cat.
But, break the feeling after 30 seconds. Trust me.
And then, next time when it appears, stay for 30 seconds, and break it again.
Visit, but don’t linger.
It is a much more elegant way to release that mess.
Often Grand-Daddy Whoppers in Yoga are like a snowball rolling down a snow-covered hill. The more you roll with them, give into their momentum, the bigger they become.
Make Yoga Snow Angels instead.